As the show opened, a man stood in the shadows of the stage, and spoke in a voice that was barely audible, he said:
“I remember the passion we felt when we were first married. Each time we were together was remarkable and memorable…”
“We’re together 10 years now. Things are not the same. The love we feel for each other is as strong as it’s ever been and I could never imagine spending my life with anyone else, but the expressions of that love… I guess these kinds of things change over time…
Maybe I need to be more realistic about what to expect from life.”
From a booth off stage, the narrator added:
“Does Judaism, the religion whose goal it is to facilitate an intimate relationship between G-d and man, speak about intimacy between woman and man? Is the physical expression of love and passion, between man and wife, important in the eyes of the greatest men who ever lived, our Sages? Are there ways to grow and heighten the expression of the love we feel for each other?”
A young man stepped on to the stage. The spotlight shone on him, and as he spoke, the one man show began…
Judaism is a religion strongly focused on one’s emotional expressions. Many of its practices are geared to building human beings who can feel things deeply and intensely.
We don’t simply commemorate or celebrate major events or hallmarks in time; we immerse ourselves in those experiences in ways that impact us internally; creating a different emotional state of mind.
Our freedom from Egyptian bondage is re-experienced emotionally and intellectually —as we become slaves again — feeling the pain and the helplessness of slavery, and then the triumph of liberation.
We spend seven intense weeks preparing for Shavuot; working rigorously on our character traits to transform how we think, act and feel. On Tisha B’av, our sorrow is palpable, our tears fall as we stand in front of the destruction that was, and the destruction that is. On SImhat Torah, we dance and sing with joy felt throughout our hearts, and on Purim our laughter and fun are unbridled.
The young man continued:
“Judaism is very much about deeply felt emotions, intensity of feeling, and passion.
Man and wife have powerful and easily accessed tools, at their disposal, to insure that emotion; feeling and passion are enjoyed between them.”
The man stood on a pedestal and shouted to the audience: “express love with: P.A.S.S.I.O.N.”
Patience: Love’s most potent tool is time. Express love slowly. Time can be recouped when it comes to just about everything else in life, but time spent with the person you love most can never be reclaimed.
Attention: Give your full attention to the person you’re blessed to be with. Make a serious and uncompromising effort to push all other thoughts to the periphery of your mind.
Speak: A lot! The power of beautiful and carefully considered words is never more potent than at the point of physical expression. Words like: “my darling” and “my love,” should be mixed with the word your partner is most desperate to hear: his/her name.
Smile: Often! Let the smile be obvious in your words and your actions. Love and laughter are eternal and inextricable partners.
Invest in love. Use the time, when you cannot be together, to prepare your words, a small gift, or a new expression of love — that will elevate what you share.
Observe and remember the things (large and small) that make your spouse happy and make him feel deeply care for.
Never stop thinking about all the things you love about the person — her voice, her smile, her eyes…
Express love with passion.
The man bowed, smiled and said goodnight.